Family Matters

The Joys and Challenges of Single Parenthood

by Nina Sandel-Sangueza

Based on a recent study by the World Health Organization (WHO), the Philippines has about 15 million solo parents; 95% or more than 14 million of whom are women.

Single parent, lone parent, independent parent, solo parent – these words are used to define single, independent parents and have evolved over the years. Nevertheless, these words inadvertently affect how the world sees us and how we see ourselves.

Let’s hear our coworkers’ views on this topic:

Jennifer Libores
Toll Teller

We have different situations. Parenting is too important a responsibility to bear alone, yet all too often single mothers and fathers are forced to do just that. Living life as single parent in this modern era is indeed a challenging one.

Yet, making all the tough decisions on my own is also rewarding. I can do all things on my own – Laundry, all other household chores, and the kids’ school assignments. I became very flexible. A fulltime mother during daytime and toll teller at night. Even my kids grew independently because I assigned them small chores to be responsible for at a young age. And when tough times come, I pray, and God is Good all the time that He provides everything we need.

Maria Theresa Desales
South Bend Utility

I still consider it as a blessing raising three beautiful kids, including my twins. Though it was like a rollercoaster ride, I was still blessed to be guided by my “in-laws-to-be.” Single parent responsibility hits me whenever the kids are sick but knowing that single parenthood is twice the work and twice the tears it is also twice the love and twice the pride.

Lyra Camille Paz
Creatives , OOH

I had to wear two hats at the same time. I feel that there is a need for me to teach my son the tasks that boys normally do. So, we take time to do “manly tasks” in the house for him to grow independently strong. Being a single parent can be a hard job, with too much to do, less time for one’s self, and hardly any time to meet new people. Yet, I have no regret for being a single mom. I may not be a perfect mother, but I will try my best to be perfect for my son.

Whether one has decided to become a single parent by choice or for whatever the reason, one need not blame oneself nor continue to feel guilty about it. Embrace the status knowing that it will be a tough one initially, but as time goes on, you and your children will learn to cope better.

To all the single moms out there struggling, you will get through this and in case no one has told you yet today, remember this: “You’re doing an amazing job!”

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